"For every problem, there is one solution that is simple, neat, and wrong." --H.L. Mencken
Do you feel like a woman in a man's body, or a man in a woman's body? If so, the term for you is "transgendered." (Some use "transsexual" or "gender dysphoric" for this purpose, but we'll get to that later.) Some transgendered people choose to alter their bodies through hormones and/or surgery. However, this is a very long, difficult, expensive, and dangerous path to take. This is why those who transition are in the minority among transgendered people, contrary to popular belief.
There are a lot of web pages for transgendered people, helping them every step of their path from one gender to the other. This website is for those who choose not to walk that path, but instead make the inner transition from denial or self-hate to acceptance. Learn to be happy with being female in a male body (or the other way around). Quite a few transgendered people talk about it as if it's a birth defect or disease that needs to be cured. Maybe for some, it is, but quite a few of us feel differently. Having a gender identity isn't a disease. Having a biological sex isn't a disease. Therefore, being female in a male body (or the reverse) isn't a disease. So why try to cure it?
You may want to be female (or male), but if you really feel like a woman in a man's body (or a man in a woman's body), then you already have your wish. Think of The Wizard of Oz. The wizard didn't actually grant anyone's wish. He showed the characters how the qualities they wished for were qualities they had all along. The goal of this site is to do the same for you.
On this site, you can see an explanation of being transgendered in plain English (the FAQ), a list of famous transgendered people (which includes royalty and even a pope!), a warning against changing one's body, a firsthand account of what it's like to grow up as a girl in a boy's body, a few tips on how to feel a little better, a description of a culture that would have raised me as a girl, a growing collection of articles from other sites, and, of course, some links.
This site has saved five people from transition.
Questions? Comments? Need an agony aunt? Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
DISCLAIMER: This is not one of those pages on how to look more like a "genetic woman" (a woman who was born with a female body). In fact, if you're planning on altering your body, this isn't really the page for you, but I suggest you read it anyway just to get the different perspective (and the warning!). Also, this site focuses on the woman-in-a-man's-body side of the issue, for the obvious reason, but if you feel like a man in a woman's body, you can still benefit from this site.
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Feel free to use anything you see on this site. (If you do use something, please give me credit, perhaps with a link or something.) If you have a transgender-related site, please link to me. If you know someone who can benefit from this site, please send it to them.
The "Welcome" image comes from Pat's Web Graphics. The boy/girl picture is by Andrew Jerabek from photographs of models by Terrence Miele for The New York Times.
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