Wasnít it just a
few years ago women were fighting like crazy to break the stay-at-home mom
stereotype to get the high paying corporate job? Ever hear that phrase --
be careful what you wish for?
Everyday Iím coming across more and more
news topics, articles in newspapers, magazines and online message boards
about women who are tired of the 9-5 regime. They are troubled with the
fact they arenít spending enough time with their families, theyíre
stressed out and they are frightened that their children are not getting
the kind of "motherly care" they are receiving in daycare's.
Then to make matters worse, every once in awhile we hear a horror story of
a daycare provider or nanny such as the au pair in the news accused of killing a child in her care. Itís enough to make any mother a
Over the past few
years there has been a definite shift in placing higher value on spending
time with the family over time spent at work. The Penn State Univ. Press
reported that women who work out of the home spend only 6.6 hours of
undivided time with their children a week. The "quality time"
fallacy seems to be rearing itís ugly head. The truth is -- kids need
more one on one time. The less time you spend with them, the less they
think they are loved. Children who feel unloved tend to act up more to get
the attention they arenít finding at home. Those special fifty six
minutes a day just isnít cutting it. Parents are finally starting to
One certain phrase I
see on the message boards and at work-at-home chats is, "Iím tired
of getting in trouble at work because I have to stay home with my sick
child." Not only is daycare expensive, but itís a great place to
pick up the newest germ or cold. The real downer, most daycareís wonít
watch sick kids. So guess who watches them? Mom! Also keep in mind that
daycareís usually require you to pay whether your child is there or not.
Then when your child is better you have the fun task of facing your boss
who has had it up to here because youíre always taking off work because
of this and that cold. But thereís more to it besides dealing with
difficult bosses and the extra costs incurred with daycare.
Research was done at
the University of Texas discovered children who had been in full-time
child care programs during preschool years demonstrated poorer study
skills, lower grades and low self-concept in later years. All that time
away from mom at a young age is effecting children. Unfortunately this
isnít something that is talked about. Fortunately there is a solution.
Iím one of the lucky 16 million women who have decided that working at
home is the best discovery since the invention of the peanut butter and
jelly sandwich . No I donít have the newest car and I havenít
gone on an exotic vacation this year or last year for that matter. But
I do know who is spending lots of time with my kids and teaching them
values and beliefs I hold dear. Me! Plus Iíve found work that I enjoy.
Now how many people can say that?
By Liz Folger, Author
of "The Stay-at-Home Mom's Guide To Making Money From Home" you
can purchase it online at amazon.com
or by calling 800-632-8676. (emphasis added)