|Why I Had Weight Loss Surgery|
|The reason I had weight loss surgery was that I was terribly overweight. My weight was affecting my health and had managed to limit my daily activities. I was in the first stages of congestive heart failure, had asthma that was steadily getting worse, I was clinically depressed and in pain most of the time.
It's hard to explain to someone who has never had to deal with being extremely overweight what it's like to live that way and then deciding to have weight loss surgery. For me it was like when I was little and playing with my friends I got locked in garage and couldn't get out. No matter how hard I tried to get out I couldn't do it. I yelled and screamed but no one came to help me. After a while I knew to get out of that garage I had to help myself. I finally was able to get out by jumping out of a high window. Being heavy is being trapped in a dark and scary place. Deciding to have surgery is reaching for and going through that high window with it's promise of light and life even if jumping through it comes with it's own share of scary moments.
As a grew older my world got smaller and smaller. Doing those every day things most people take for granted got tougher and tougher for me. I couldn't stand very long, I couldn't walk very far without having to stop, rest and catch my breath. I couldn't care for my home and taking care of my personal needs drained me of precious energy. I had tried lots of "diets". You name it and I probably used it but every new eating plan always ended the same way. I would regain whatever weight I was able to lose and added on a few new pounds too.
When my husband Sam and I relocated to Arizona from California we had to find a doctor to take care of us. Aquaintances had recommended Dr. Richard Bobe so we made appointments to go and see him. Now Sam takes blood pressure meds so he needed medical watching over and me being close to 400 pounds needed help too but after so many disappointments I felt that any chance for me to lose weight just didn't exist and my chance at a brand new life had long ago passed me by.
Sitting on the little stool in one of Dr. Bobe's exam rooms because I didn't fit in the chair provided, I waited for this new doctor to come thru the door. I had gotten used to seeing shock on the face of many doctors when they met me for the first time but never got used to how much it hurt me to see it. I didn't know what to expect but hoped at least this doctor would try to understand and be compassionate.
Dr. Bobe was understanding and very compassionate but I was in no way prepared for what he had to say to me after my inital examination. Coming to within inches of my face, Dr. Bobe speaking softly and as gently as he could told me, "Betty, at your present weight you won't live another 10 years. Most of those10 years will have you being completely bedridden." His words just hung there. The shock and scare of what he had to say to me had taken me totally off guard. Dr. Bobe then went on to tell me he wanted to refer me to a surgeon in Las Vegas, NV who he felt was one of the best at doing weight loss surgery. It was difficult to agree with him but down deep I knew he was right so I told him to go ahead and get things moving along.
Going home from his office his words keep coming back to me and I started to cry. I cried because I was scared, I cried because I was fat, I cried because I didn't want to be a burden on my family and I cried because I didn't want to die. But the more I thought about surgery I realized that I had very little to lose. Without surgery what life I had left would be as an invalid. Surgery although risky at least gave me a chance for a normal life.
Since that day November 8th, 2000 I did whatever it took to become a candidate for weight loss surgery. Pre operative tests showed new medical problems that needed to be taken care of before I could have surgery. Getting through this waiting was a hard time for me because there were moments it seemed that my health problems would prevent me from ever having the chance of surgery. But all these problems where explored in detail and taken care of one by one. I finally was able to have my surgery, a Proximal RNY on February 11, 2002 in Las Vegas, NV by Dr. Barry Fisher..
Since then I feel as if I've been reborn. I have never regretted my decision and I thank God for bringing Dr. Richard Bobe into my life.
Thanks so much for reading my surgery story.
The very best to you and may you find peace with your own decisions.