| I am a strict advocate of safe words. These are words that are specifically set up to have certain meanings in a session. Green: Continue or ‘I am enjoying myself’. Yellow: ‘Stop for a minute or not so intense’ ’ Red: Stop everything! I am overwhelmed!! This is very important to understand the use of these words! Quite often, struggling or resistance maybe part of the play and ‘Don’t’ or ‘Stop’ is expected and ignored. Mutual respect: Getting together and playing is supposed to be fun. Respect of the wants, desires, limits, needs, etc. is the responsibility of both parties. Safe Sex: Any type of anal sex will require condoms. I am HIV negative and plan to stay that way. |
| As the submissive, you are surrendering yourself to me. I have behaviors, dress and attitudes that are required. Behavior: You are the bottom, be submissive! I expect for you to respond to directions quickly and willingly. Anything less than that will be dealt with harshly. Your happiness is derived from doing my bidding. Before we get together..... Preparation Before we meet for any type of play, you will be expected to look as much like a woman as possible. For most men, it is quite an undertaking, albeit a ‘labor of love’. Your face and legs must be shaved well, no stubble. As a general rule, I would stay away from preparations such as Neet or Nair, unless you are experienced with them. If you have excessive body hair, get rid of it. I want to be with a woman, not Chewbacca! Pubic hair will be cropped close. Don’t try to shave it. It will turn into a razor bump mess. Shave your armpits. Makeup You are expected to wear makeup. I prefer heavy makeup applied tastefully. Foundation, powder, false eyelashes, well-groomed eyebrows, eyeshadow, exotic eyeliner and lipstick are a must. If you are unskilled at makeup, you had better practice. I am forgiving the first couple of sessions, but expect improvement quickly. More on Makeup... What to wear..... What you will be wearing is usually contingent on what type of play we have chosen. I have a list of basic items that you will be required. View List |
| The Submissive’s role |
| Basic Rules for Play |
| The Dominant's role |
| Contrary to popular belief, there is much more to being a good Dom than just putting on leather and making someone do your bidding. I consider myself rather good at what I do, mostly attributed to having very good teachers. There is a big difference between dominance and brutality. What to expect from me: It is my responsibility to montor the overall "flow" of the play period. I will stop when I feel that we are loosing focus. Quite often, play will touch into unresolved feelings that might become overwhelming. I take responsibility for ensuring that you are receiving what you had planned for. You are my ward and I want to ensure your safety. This may sound contradictory, but I do care about you. No matter what we do in 'character' I have a deep respect for your courage to be who you are. My long term goal is to have a lasting relationship with one (or more) of my subs. I am hoping it may be you. |